Main emotional causes of obesity
1) Compulsion:
a) by feeling of emptiness caused by the lack of something essential in the past. Sadness, insecurity or abandonment, resulting from the lack of affection or longing for an important family member in childhood, such as parents or even a deceased brother.
b) by feeling of emptiness and anxiety about the absence of something important in the current life. Food would be being used to fill that absence. Such as life purpose, personal mission, professional fulfillment, affective and/or sexual fulfillment.
c) to compensate for the anxiety or worry installed at a stage of life (mostly in childhood) when the person went hungry or was afraid of going hungry. Often they were patterns passed down by ancestors who witnessed wars or other severe situations.
2) Standards installed as part of the family's cultural heritage.
a) Food as an expression of family affection. For certain families that worshiped a true ritual at meal times in which the ninth or the mother expressed a deep love through the wonderful food they prepared.
b) Code of membership. In a fat family, being fat can mean loyalty to the group.
c) Eat enough to please the parents. When the child got praise and affection from the parents if he ate a lot.
3) Affective and sexual escape
a) Problems with the opposite sex. Fear and insecurity about surrendering to relationships, they can seek protection by keeping themselves fat (o), making their body less attractive to avoid flirting.
b) Protection of children. Women who take care of their children alone may gain weight to avoid sexual partners, with the intention of protecting their children's childhood.
c) Sexual difficulties. Keeping the body obese would lower the risk of attracting mates.
4) Escape from beauty
a) Ashamed of drawing attention. Fear of flirting. They are afraid of getting lost or uncomfortable for not knowing how to set limits.
b) Fear of problems with the spouse. They avoid triggering insecurity or jealousy or spousal control.
c) Belief that being attractive is vulgar.
5) Excessive appreciation of the pleasure of eating. One of the greatest pleasures and meaning of life. “Live to eat”.
6) Resistance to physical activity
a) Associates physical activity with suffering, loss of time or obligation.
b) Overvaluation of intellectuality and denial of apology for the body.
7) Escape valve for uncomfortable emotions or sensations
a) Loneliness, pressure at work, anxiety, boredom, irritation, etc.
b) Solace. Babies don't just cry out of hunger. If they are always treated with the offer of food to calm their emotional discomfort, they can build negative or mistaken relationships between food and affection.
8) Rebellion
Rivalry with parents or society that values physical appearance.
9) Gift or reward
When doing a food extravaganza with the thought of pleasing yourself, giving yourself a gift or giving yourself affection, comfort and warmth. The idea of “I deserve it”.
